Aim To Fail: Why Rethinking Rejection Can Increase Productivity

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Rethinking Rejection Can Increase Productivity

No one likes to hear “no,” especially after working hard on an idea. But in many workplaces, dealing with rejection is part of the job. Dream of working in a creative field or becoming an innovator, and you may be signing on for even more brutal (and sometimes public) rejection.


So how do you learn to embrace rejection? Many successful visionaries have found their rejection to be some of the best things that have ever happened to them. Developing a positive attitude toward rejection isn’t as counterintuitive as it sounds. Here are some tips from the pros:


Why Aiming To Fail Can Lead to Success

Creative nonfiction writer Kim Liao published an essay last year that sent ripples through the literary community. In it, she described her strategy to aim for 100 rejections per year. You may not be used to seeing rejection as a sign of ambition, but Liao points out that a triple-digit goal is difficult to hit.


“My ego resists mustering up the courage to submit writing to literary magazines, pitch articles, and apply for grants, residencies, and fellowships.” After accumulating 43 rejections and 5 acceptances, she wrote, “Now, I see rejection as a conversation: for every piece that is rejected, at least one other person read it, thought about it, and really considered whether it would be a good fit for publication.”


The real cost of rejection isn’t hearing “no” that one time. It’s missing opportunities to try again because the original rejection is still echoing in your head.


Setting a challenging rejection goal means you don’t have time to wallow. To get 100 rejections in a year like Liao, you need to be sending something out almost daily. You need to generate new ideas quickly, and even resubmit rejected ones to a new outlet as soon as possible.


Learning to roll with rejection may even encourage healthy business growth. You may have to research more potential clients or markets so you don’t overwhelm your current list of contacts.


If you reframe rejection as an achievement for putting yourself out there, rather than a penalty, you may have an easier time mustering the courage to aim for top-tier, highly competitive targets. Achievement-oriented workers, often identified as “Type A” people, may even find a weird sense of satisfaction in adding another rejection to their tally for the year.


Seeking rejection also means you can’t rest on your laurels. Success doesn’t count in your “score.” Too many successes can even be a warning sign that you’re restricting your own opportunities by not aiming high enough. It might be time to raise prices, pitch more prestigious markets, or expand the reach of your business.


Working with the same clients on the same kinds of projects is comfortable, but it doesn’t lead to growth. You can take a moment to pat yourself on the back when you get a “yes,” but then it’s time to push forward with another idea to keep rejection numbers where they should be.


 Learning About Grit From Famous Failures

Even if you know rejection is healthy, it can be discouraging to see negative responses in your inbox day after day. What most people forget is that pretty much anyone they admire as a successful role model is likely also, by the numbers, one of the biggest failures they know.


Successful people put themselves out there a lot, which generally means their ideas also get shot down constantly. F. Scott Fitzgerald collected 122 rejection slips before he got his footing as a short story writer.  Vogue editor Anna Wintour was fired from a junior position at Harper’s Bazaar because a senior editor thought her photo shoots were too edgy. Oprah Winfrey, Howard Stern, Walt Disney, J.K. Rowling, and many others had bosses tell them they were bad fits in their chosen field or lacked creativity (ha!).


In hindsight, it’s easy to see that these mega-stars were visionaries, and to dismiss their old bosses as bumbling fools who couldn’t spot the genius right in front of them. In the moment, though, it’s devastating to get rejected for something you thought was a strength. 


The real cost of rejection isn’t hearing “no” that one time. It’s missing opportunities to try again because the original rejection is still echoing in your head.”


Success takes a never-give-up attitude that psychologists often refer to as “resilience” or “grit.” Researchers are still trying to understand how grit works and what combination of factors determines a person’s grit. In the meantime, some experts have identified strategies gritty people rely on to keep moving forward:


  • Cultivate a “growth mindset.”  People with a “ fixed mindset ” view qualities like intelligence or talent as innate–you either have them or you don’t. In a growth mindset, you believe that ability is shaped by the effort you put in. Angela Lee Duckworth, author of Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance,  says, “The hope that gritty people have has nothing to do with luck and everything to do with getting up again.” Resolving to use your skills to make tomorrow a better day, rather than merely wishing things would improve, is a better way to stay engaged in the process.


  • Listen for your calling.  Duckworth believes grit is grounded in a sense of meaning. Stuck in a job you dislike? Looking for ways your job helps people down the line can connect a monotonous routine to a meaningful outcome.


  • Practice mindfulness. Linda Lantieri, director of The Inner Resilience Program, says a regular mindfulness practice increases self-understanding, improves concentration, and makes it easier to stay relaxed under stressful circumstances. A meditation break or mindful stretching may release some tension.


  • Seek feedback. Identifying areas to improve your approach re-categorizes a rejection. Instead of a failure, it’s a learning opportunity and a chance to practice.


  • Invest time. Set aside a regular time, such as the last Friday of the month, to review the latest batch of rejections. Look for themes. Are you hearing “too vague” or “not for us” often? You can use these reasons as a guideline to add detail or tailor a pitch to your audience better next time.


Steve Jobs is a particularly strong example of using grit to thrive despite professional crisis. He and his business partner started Apple in a garage when Jobs was only 20 years old. By the time Jobs was 30 years old, Apple had grown into a multi-billion-dollar company–and Jobs found himself kicked to the curb when his creative vision diverged from the rest of the board. In his 2005 Stanford commencement address, he recalled how adrift he felt:


“What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating…I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me–I still loved what I did.”


Jobs decided to use his unexpected (and initially unwanted) new freedom to try new things. He launched Pixar Animation Studios and software company NeXT. By the time he was rehired at Apple in the late ‘90s, Jobs was gearing up to launch some of Apple’s most anticipated and successful products (ever heard of a little gadget called the iPhone?).


“Try Again. Fail Again. Fail Better.”

The other pitfall to watch out for is getting sloppy with your work. It’s easier to rack up 100 rejections (or whatever your goal is) if you send out applications containing typos and lackluster ideas. It’s also a waste of everyone’s time.


Samuel Beckett is the author of the quote at the top of this section. The idea of “failing better” also ties into the popular idea of logging 10,000 hours of dedicated practice to become an expert. Making time to hone and revise rejected ideas can lead to better success rates than simply sending old ideas to someone different.


Start by organizing your ideas in a format that’s easy to track. If you brainstorm and organize your work on a Trello board, you might have lists for Rough BrainstormsReady to SendPitches Awaiting Response, and Needs Review.I


n your routine review, turn a critical eye on these elements of rough ideas or rejected pitches to increase your chances of a “yes”:


  • Angle:  Is the idea too personal, too broad, or too well-covered already? What new information can I bring to distinguish my project from others that might be similar?
  • Audience:  Who do I want to reach with this idea? What problem will my idea help solve? Is there someone else who might also benefit from the project who I haven’t contacted yet?
  • Timeliness:  Why is now the right time for this idea? Is there an anniversary, milestone, or current news event that ties in?
  • Depth:  Am I including the right level of detail in my project (or, is it too “in the weeds” and needs higher-level context)? Do I need to bring someone else in to provide expert input and add authority?


Look for the bright side in rejection notes, too. If your boss says, “We already have something similar in the works,” it means you’re coming up with good ideas. Ask how you can assist in the current project, and keep brainstorming hard. Your next big idea may nail the timing and earn that long-awaited yes.


Posted by Jessica Sillers on 11th September, 2017 on Trello.


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